You wanna change the world???

The news on any platform feels so overwhelming today. It’s like politics has blended itself in every category of the media as possible, sports, Hollywood and social media. It’s hard to listen and take seriously especially when the “extremist-rant” is followed up by a money advertiser mention about Keri’s Berries. It’s actually quite comical.

So I think to myself how do I even make a dent, in a time when America is extremely-split on every topic imaginable, while the fingers point in both directions. Maybe I need to do more than just be sober.

But what? I had to start somewhere, so I decided to create my platform on “I have absolute zero control over the world and everything in it.” That right there gets me off-the-hook on a whole lot of issues. However I do have a responsibility, to someone or something, right? So I put my right arm out in front of me, and turned my body to a complete 360 degree angle. And that space right there, is where I start, and what I can control.

It’s a very small space compared to the world. So I started praying to my higher power to fill that small space with people who need help. And he did.

Andrew came in my life, and for the first time he has over 2 months of sobriety, after a dozen relapses. For the first time, he called me when he felt like using and drinking, and he remained sober. Nikki was having a nervous breakdown and her first day on the job at a local breakfast place. I took a second to tell her she was doing great, and with watered eyes, she said thank you. Brody called me and after a recent relapse after 15 months clean, he said he needed to get back in treatment, he couldn’t stay sober. Jessica called and after leaving treatment 2 months ago, she relapsed and wanted to go back. Then there was Vince, who literally got out of jail yesterday and says he is 6 months clean and if I would be his sponsor. And Mark, he showed me the scar that took up most of his forearm, and with a 24 ounce beer in his other hand, simply said, “I’m not ready yet.” Then picked up his wheel barrel of junk he has collected throughout our neighborhood and strolled down the street. It’s his journey, not mine.

You wanna change the world, start by waking up sober. Then help the people that your higher puts in your life. Action.

Walk Towards the Cheers…

What’s your biggest fear for staying sober?

elevatorI don’t know how or why the question popped in my head. It’s really the first thing that came to mind as I opened up my laptop. It sounds crazy, someone being scared to stay sober but I think that may be big part of the challenge. Sobriety leaves us alone with ourselves. It’s that awkward moment of silence you share on an elevator  with someone like your boss or manager. You know them, but not really. Not enough to strike up a conversation, but enough that you know you should. We don’t know who exactly is under all the layers and layers of addiction we hide ourselves with. We have an idea, but we are not exactly sure. It’s just easier not to search, than to search and be disappointed. And that is why sobriety and recovery is a complete life change. And it can be scary however if you hold on, it can also be exciting and amazing! Imagine being in an elevator and the person next to you is the “sober you in five years.” What do they look like, where are they going, what do they say and is the elevator going up or down??

All comments are welcome and don’t forget to listen to our latest podcast!!

One of the things sobriety has given me

So my little dog Kenny Boy had to get stitches this week. I worked Saturday night and so Sunday I planned to sleep all day, because I had to go right back to work in the evening. However, my wife woke me with that “wife voice” that something is truly wrong. I love the way she is assertive I might add. She said, “You need to get up,” oppose to asking. I can respect that though, it meant something is very, very wrong.

Poor Kenny Boy!
Poor Kenny Boy!

Well it turns out Kenny Boy was bitten on the back by Manu, our lab mix. They were playing outside and Manu went up to the fence to bark at our neighbor and Kenny Boy came up from behind and Manu snapped at him causing two punctures. So I got up and took Kenny Boy to vet with my daughter. My wife was actually working at the time (she works from home) and could not take Kenny Boy herself.

So I took her bank card. We both were not sure how much it would be, but both loving our pets we were prepared to pay what it took. I felt bad though, not having a savings for this type of thing. But I knew this was or should be my responsibility. I remembered the time when I was in addiction and our dog Colt got injured, my wife had to come over to the vet and pay the $300 bill because I could not.

However with Kenny Boy, they did offer a credit line if I was approved. So I gave it a shot, so maybe my wife would not have to pay, and I was approved. So it made me feel better that even though I could not pay the $500 bill for Kenny Boy’s stitches, at least I got the credit and can pay it off monthly. And that’s something my recovery and sobriety has given me. Credit.

So a few quick things:

I have a new article out on my site called Dear Pam: A letter to the wives, I wrote this so maybe our loved ones and gain a little understanding of why we do, what we do!

Next I created a closed FB group called, Keeping it Sober-Addiction, Recovery & Living Sober, so we can post and talk more freely while saving our anonymity. So go check it out!

Last, I created a new survey, only 3 questions, so you can help me, help create better content for you!


Jaime-keeping it Sober


Let The Day Unfold, Until 7, At Least

I am truly grateful for Saturday morning’s like this. I remember in early sobriety, stepping out my sober home front door and relaxing on the porch taking the beautiful sunshine in. Nothing to stress about and only responsibility was to get to the next meeting, sober.

As recovery moves on, things change, life changes. We’re sober now! We walk with a new found confidence and smile, we are trusted, we are friendly we are brand new! My life filled up quick once I was able to maintain my sobriety. Jobs, new hobbies, new friends and such forth. Suddenly five minutes basking in the Saturday morning rays was too time consuming.

Grateful & Blessed!
Grateful & Blessed!

“I have no such time to be grateful!”

Suddenly I wake up and my mind and body is on strict routine and schedule of my own creation. Every second is planned out, every minute I suppose to be somewhere or be typing something. Literally five steps away from this keyboard, I can be outside being grateful.

Today I am going to let the day truly unfold! No schedules, no routines, no scheduled post of any kind, just me and the wind!

Well, of course until 7pm, when I have to go into work!


The Dreaded Dental Appointment

So I am dreading this dental appointment I have in about half and hour. Not the actual cleaning, however just appointment itself. The office I go to always tries to get me scheduled in for this or that, and I like my Fridays free of appointments of any kind. I guess it’s still hard for me to say no, maybe a sign of codependency, or always worried that random people who I have absolutely no connection with will not like me.

I always think as well, can they tell I was an addict when they look at my teeth, or when my doctor looks up my nose on my regular check-up’s. There is always that bit of silence, during the examine when I wonder, “Can they tell, and if they can, what are they thinking?”

Remember everyone, our addiction, disease, vice or whatever you call it does not take a break for the weekend, keep doing what your doing no matter what!!

Have a good one!



The Very First Sentence Of Your Journey

So let’s have some fun today. Everyone has an amazing story to share. And if your like me, you have often thought of publishing your personal journey if nothing else but to help others. So, if you got “the call” and a check advancement was on the way for “your story” what would be your very, very first ever sentence to your amazing book?

Good Morning, Happy Thursday Let’s Keep it Sober!


Keeping it Sober Episode 12

Hey everyone, Part 2, of the 5 Part Mini Series on How I Stay Sober, is out! Click right here to listen, hope you enjoy!


Keep it Sober my friends!